I'm sorry Martina, I was not trying to say it was you. I hope it didn't come across that way. I was just trying to make a point to LV about handling these things delicately when people ask for personal advice about extreme hardship. Knowing the Church teaching and making it known is very important, but how it is conveyed is also very important. Your friend is in a very tough spot but it sounds like she has taken the first steps correctly.