I visited my Dental Hygienist today. She is a lady in her late forties who, I know to be Catholic as I sometimes see her at Mass. She is usually chatty and friendly but not today. Half way through my treatment she burst into tears and stopped the cleaning. I asked what the matter was and she told me that her mother had died just over a week ago, she apologised and went to continue but I stopped her and asked if her mother was Catholic, she said no, her dad was. But (not sure how this works) that she was being buried from a Catholic church. We chatted for a while about her mother and I said that I would pray for her soul, she was obviously offended and said 'Oh, I know that Mum is OK'. As far as she was concerned her mother is in heaven and I had offended her by implying otherwise. Very little conversation from that point. This is a problem I have noticed with Catholics assuming that their loved one is obviously in heaven and not seeing prayer for their souls as at all necessary. This is a contrast to the reaction of non-believers in my experience. A good friend of mine who is 'agnostic' and does not want to hear about religious matters, hugged me and wept when he lost his father and I said that I would arrange a Mass for him and this is not the first non-believer friend who has reacted in this way. What is going on when Catholics can offend other Catholics by promising prayers for their deceased family members and non-Catholics seem to appreciate it?