Prayers for Upcoming Memorial Service

Discussion in 'In Memoriam' started by Mario, Apr 2, 2024.

  1. Mario

    Mario Powers

    I ask for your prayerful support. It sadly is the norm now to be contacted by a Funeral Home to conduct an in-house service for a deceased Catholic. Fr. Francis often turfs this to me when it entails no funeral Holy Mass. But too frequently, the deceased was non-practicing, a nice person well loved by family and friends. The assumption, unfortunately nowadays, is that this translates into a free ticket to heaven.:whistle::cry:

    Thus, a most difficult balance between compassion for family and friends, yet calling them on...

    It is not the time for fire and brimstone; even still less is it a time to pretend all is hunky-dory. So what I will share is the truth of Christ, His Easter victory, but His requirement as Lord that we surrender our lives, our struggles, our desires into His hands: the doorway to Mercy (sacramental life).

    Lord have Mercy!
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  2. HeavenlyHosts

    HeavenlyHosts Powers

    This is a delicate situation indeed. You are in my prayers.
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  3. bflocatholic

    bflocatholic Powers

  4. AED

    AED Powers

    I recall Mother Teresa's sisters responding, upon her death, when asked " of course she is in heaven?"
    Replied: "Mother waits upon the mercy of God"
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  5. Mario

    Mario Powers

    Yes, AED, to wait upon the mercy of God; if no one at the funeral home expresses the desire to offer up a Holy Mass, I will make sure one is.

    Eternal rest grant unto James, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him. May his soul and the souls of all the faithful departed, through the Mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen!
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  6. Katfalls

    Katfalls Powers

    I recently found out that you don't have to be Catholic to have a funeral service in the Catholic church. My husband and I were discussing this because he is not Catholic and he seemed so at peace when I asked him if he would like that. He said yes . . .and I think it gave him some hope. He will be 81 this year. So if that helps you, we all have a job to do and you have your calling.
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  7. AED

    AED Powers

    I am very glad to hear this! I am in a similar situation.
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  8. padraig

    padraig Powers

    You are brave and honest, Terry. I don't envy you. People nowadays won't accept the least correcfion. Prayers.
  9. Jo M

    Jo M Powers

    I am glad that you addressed this topic. I recently attended a wake/funeral for a life long Catholic. A priest came to the funeral home, said a few words about the deceased and we joined him in prayer. I assumed we would be heading to the church afterwards for the funeral Mass, but I was shocked to discover the procession went directly to the cemetery, and then on to a restaurant for a reception. I had no idea that this was trending at Catholic funerals, and I wondered how clergy felt about these funeral home services. I can't imagine it would be the wish of a lifelong Catholic to omit the funeral Mass, so this decision may rest with family members. As a result, I am going to have a conversation with my children that both my husband and I would want a funeral Mass. God bless you Mario, I wouldn't know where to begin in a situation like this. Prayers.
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  10. Ed Kleese

    Ed Kleese Servant

    I understand. Prayers for you my Brother, and the deceased, and the Word in your homily.
    Peace. Ed
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  11. HeavenlyHosts

    HeavenlyHosts Powers

    It’s in our will to have a funeral Mass .
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  12. Seagrace

    Seagrace Archangels

    Agree. The wake service might be the only time non practising Catholic attendees ( and others) hear that being a Christian means to choose Christ in everything ‐ in big ways and in small, in the easy things and in tough situations. That it's not about what feels right to me as much as it is about doing what God has willed for me. Perhaps the wake service is the only time some will hear that the Christian journey is indeed marked by struggles and loneliness because to choose Him means to be set apart from the world. And yet, that will be where we encounter true joy.
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  13. Katfalls

    Katfalls Powers

    I am wanting the opposite. No funeral home just go directly to church for a funeral mass, put me in the ground, and go feed whoever shows up.
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  14. AED

    AED Powers

    That would be my preference.
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  15. RoryRory

    RoryRory Perseverance

    I was told by a priest to put it in your will as he had a very devout Catholic in his parish and the children would not have a funeral mass. So sad.
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  16. HeavenlyHosts

    HeavenlyHosts Powers

    Yes, it is sad. I think it happens more than we know.
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  17. Jo M

    Jo M Powers

    Agree, just the Mass and burial. The funeral home is a big NO for me.
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  18. Jo M

    Jo M Powers

    :cry: Good advice, RR & HH. I think I might also include a request for Masses in lieu of flowers.

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