For the past year or so I have been heartbroken over my ex. Although I was head over heels in love with her I realize she never loved me. Either that, or God will teach her the true meaning of love in the Warning. Unless she truly loves me, I don’t want to give my heart to any modern woman. I thought she was different from other women, but she has the same mentality. Almost all of them require a life review with God to set them on the right path. It’s the only way they wouldn’t be infected by the world or its values. Please pray that either she loves me for real someday or that God erases her from my memories. If His intention is for me to ever marry, as long as I remember her I will never love anyone as deeply. But I don’t want to be with her if it was all wishful thinking.
I pray God will set your heart free and you can move forward. He has a plan for you, and the best thing to do at this point is to humble yourself and grow in the holiness needed to be a selfless, loving, and Godly husband for your (God-willing) future wife.
I'm also going to pray that your ex- somehow comes to see how she's been misled. Young women since the 1970s (that I recall as a kid then) have been rigorously conditioned to be independent, brave, daring. "I am woman, hear me roar!" I finally woke up years ago, after a particularly nasty "reality check." Many young women have been harmed or killed by predators due to risky behaviors and unrealistic attitudes our "society" pounds in their heads/flatters them to have. It'd especially dangerous today to view one's self as empowered and invincible.
You are totally spot on. I have noticed this too and it has only gotten worse. There is no happiness for women in this false ideology. So so sad.
Thomas, as time goes on and the Lord draws you ever closer to Him, you will be changed. I have experienced that in the context of love for a former boyfriend. I do not know how He will change you, but he is trying you in the furnace of His love.
I’m in the same exact boat, Thomas. I was married 26 years. Prayers. Feel free to contact me via PM if you need to talk.
I will share a vision I had about 17 years ago. I don't know everyone's circumstances and don't really want to know. My husband and I have just celebrated our 47th anniversary. Yes, we have had our rocky moments like everyone has. Before I met him I had asked God for a husband, I was 23 and ready to settle down. Then my husband appeared on the scene,quite unexpectedly. He is not Catholic, not really any denomination, but a good man. But having the Irish temper I have, it sometimes gets out of control. Well, about 17 years ago I got really angry at him and spouted off all kinds of screaming things. I don't even remember what started it . . .so after I blew up and went into the dining room a vision appeared in front of me. It was kind of like a small window, cloud like, right before my eyes. An image of a beautifully wrapped golden present with a golden bow. And while I didn't actually hear a voice I was asked, "how would you treat a gift I have given you?" The gift of course was my husband. It was a wonderful gift, and then the vision vanished. I was unable to move I was so stunned. I felt just awful and mortified. I immediately did a 360 in my thinking . . .went to my husband and apologized profusely for yelling at him. Father's Day was coming up and I got him a card and made a little wallet sized card I put in it that said, "I will never get mad at you again". And I have not. We have some little disagreements but never any yelling etc. I was so glad God shared that with me, so sometimes there are two sides to the story.
Sorry you are suffering, a broken relationship is so painful. I pray that you will be blessed with the graces to heal your wounded heart.
Praying for you also Thomas. I also wanted to recommend looking into deliverance prayers. A very profound pain may also be linked to deeper past wounds that need healing or forgiveness (mother wound, father wound, past hurts, rejections, abandonment etc). I've been healed of some wounds through healing prayers over time. People like Francis Macnutt, Fr Pat Collins and even a few others like John Hamsch, Fr Yozefu B. Ssemakula (family tree healings) have books that teach that healing of something in the present can come through forgiveness and healing of past wounds.
