My husband and I will be married 2o years this year. We have a nine year old son that is our world. I am 41 and my husband is 45 and surprise -we are pregnant. We always planned to have more than one child but we had some issue getting pregnant again followed by a job loss and then the time did not seem right any more. I was happy with our life. We are caring for aging parents and it is hard juggling all of our responsibilities. I am having a hard time being happy about having a baby. The baby and toddler years are tough me and I am scared about starting over again. I need prayers to give me an attitude adjustment, give me energy to get through this, and that my nine year old will be happy when we tell him tomorrow. I know I sound selfish and I feel guilty about it. I also feel foolish about telling people that I am pregnant at my age. I also worry about the health of the baby. I am a bundle of worries and emotion. I appreciate any prayers. Thank you P.S. I also worry about being pregnant and having a baby at this particular time based on what Charlie Johnston has been preparing us for this year.
Praying for your anxiety over this. But it us joyful news. My wife and I were in exact same position and basically same ages 13 years ago when our last son was born. There is a 15 year gap between our two sons, with two girls in the middle. We too were worried but you just put your trust in Jesus. We could not imagine our lives without our "baby" even though we have just re-entered the teen years . All life is precious and your child will be you much joy. Peace.
This child may be the joy of your life- have confidence in your prayer. So many people on this forum are praying for each other.Confidence Confidence God will bless you.
I will pray for you! One prayer that helps is the Saint Francis de Sales Do not fear prayer. Do not look forward in fear to the changes in life; rather, look to them with full hope that as they arise, God, whose very own you are, will lead you safely through all things; and when you cannot stand it, God will carry you in His arms. Do not fear what may happen tomorrow; the same understanding Father who cares for you today will take care of you then and every day. He will either shield you from suffering or will give you unfailing strength to bear it. Be at peace, and put aside all anxious thoughts and imaginations.
We are in the same boat. I will be 44 when our fifth child is born in a few months. I think that my husband is STILL in shock! I have a lot of the same concerns about the impending changes in the world. However, I have actually found great peace in the realization that I am not in control (like I like to think I am) and in knowing that my pregnancy is God's will. I sympathize with your range of emotions. I will pray for you. And once your little bundle of joy arrives, you won't be able to imagine your life with him/her! May God continue to bless your family.
The spiritual joys of the moment...nothing better then a loving gift from God. All this doom and gloom means nothing. Live the moment and enjoy Gods plan for you. brother al
I am one of 3 children, so is my husband, and in someway i thought 3 is the number of children you have. I was shocked when I discovered I was pregnant with my fourth child. When I told my husband he instantly went to tell our children. As he told them the thought went through my head that it was now too late to "do anything about it" because he had told the children. May God forgive me. For the first 6 months of that pregnancy I didn't want that baby. Everything was just fine in life, another baby wouldn't make things better. In the 6th month I slipped in the shower, and before I even hit the ground I knew I loved that baby and didn't want it to get hurt in the fall. It was a turning point in my life - thank God for it. When the baby was 6 months old my husband got a vasectomy. It broke my heart, and I mourn almost daily for the other children I might have had. God does know best, He knows what you need. I will pray for you. This may be a great cross for you now, but if is also a great blessing. God bless your family.
What me and my wife would give to have a child! We are facing severe difficulty and the doctors, of which we've seen many, have done all they can. I'll pray for your situation Joanne. Its a great blessing, and Gods time is rarely our time.
I pray to Our Laddy. To protect you and your baby. I was in the same situation when I was 42 ,feeling too old and a bit shocked. Subsequently I lost the baby through miscarriage and I was very upset. I often find myself thinking what age would my baby be now. Trust the Lord. This baby is a great gift and will bring joy, a lot of work too
Congrats to Joanne and Pray4peace! Prayers as well, also for Torrentum. I was 42 when we had our last baby. I refused to do the calculations - you know, when this child leaves school I will be whatever age - just decided, that way lies madness, and refused to do the sums. I'm now in my mid 50s with a houseful of teenagers, mountains of washing, lots of laughter, fights, lots of loud music, some of this and lots of this and no matter how many times I shop and cook there's still someone who's hungry. Yes, the new baby and toddler years are oh so cute and oh so exhausting. The teenage years are terrifying and fun. Our Blessed Mother, St Anthony and Padre Pio have been kept very, very busy. Don't know how I'd do it without them.
Joanne, I am 52 and our 4th child is 19 months old now. My wife is 46. We were surprised when we got the Catholic surprise with our 3rd child when I was 46 and my wife was 40. We thought that was a shock and I was in a funk for a couple of months when I first got the news (but this wasn't my plan!!!). So now we are looking for colleges for our oldest who is 17, getting our 2nd ready for high school next year, finishing off Kindergarten for our third, and trying to teach the 4th one to talk. I completely understand your angst but God would not bring you this baby unless He has a plan (and He definitely has a plan!). I may get funny looks carrying my baby around with my grey hair (folks probably think I'm his grandfather) but I could not be happier to go home after work tonight and take care of our baby and guess what, he's keeping us young!
What a great post...great outlook on life. Enjoy each moment united with Our Lord and Savior. Welcome to the blessings of the ordinary saint. There are more of us then people think. All we can do is pray and smile May God Bless you and your family Brother al
praying for you! what plans God has for you and your family! trust Him...although easier said than done, I know!
St. Gerard Majella was once falsely accused by a pregnant woman of being the father of her child. He refused to defend himself, but the woman later admitted that she had lied. Because of this incident, Saint Gerard became the patron saint of mothers and motherhood, as well as of those falsely accused. This prayer could be said as a novena by a wife trying to conceive a child. A Prayer to St. Gerard for Motherhood O glorious Saint Gerard, powerful intercessor before God, and wonder worker of our day, I call upon you and seek your help. You who always fulfilled God's will on earth, help me to do God's holy will. Intercede with the Giver of life, from whom all parenthood proceeds, that I may conceive and raise children who will please God in this life, and be heirs to the kingdom of heaven. Amen.
I am so happy for you! I would love to have another child but being almost 50 now God apparently doesn't think so. But I love the thought of another soul being created for Heaven. I think babies in your older years are so much more appreciated for different reasons. You're usually in a better financial position and your temperament is more of a grandparent! Plus you've lived through so many mistakes in life you're more spiritually mature. Congratulations! God Bless!
I can't pretend I know what its like rearing a child; as my mind is set on others things, but I do know some find it very-hard to give birth at all.. poor souls. God has given you something quite wonderful. I hope, and pray for the health of you and your baby. God Bless you!
My dear friend who had two children was diagnosed with MS. Her doctor instructed her to not have any more children as pregnancy could make her symptoms worse. Her and her husband were saddened with this and decided to Just trust God with His will about accepting a new life with all the challenges entailed with caring for a new life and the debilitating limitations of MS. Long story short, they had three pregnancies. One baby died two days after birth , followed by the birth of their healthy second daughter Marie and second son chad! These last two children became the arms and legs for the mother who could not use hers as most of us do. They are amazing children who are now adults and living great lives! Oh, young Marie is entering a convent this month.....the feast of Fatima's first apparition, May, 13t.! Trust God and His plan.....and pray. This child might be the best thing that ever happened to you
I'm praying too, joanne. It is certainly a sudden shift in the trajectory of your family's life! I 'll place you under Our Lady's mantle. maryrose, We've lost two children through miscarriage. Their names are Nathan and Elizabeth. It leaves a hole in one's heart. The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away. Blessed be the name of the Lord!
