Dear MOG brothers and sisters, Five days ago we discovered while my wife trying to give birth to our baby boy Anthony, that he died just 24 hours earlier due to a rare stroke. We have been living in debilitating pain and anguish, with many questions.. As if the world fell apart.. Although this is our second child, but the pain of loss if unbearable. We know that Anthony is in heaven now but this doesn't give us relief from the pain. Why God allows this? why? although I trust his will unconditionally but the pain of separation is unbearable. Please pray for me and my wife. Blessings.
My deepest sympathy...such pain "The Angel took the little child, And bore him past the shining ranks Of singers and of harpers, past The golden streets and lilied banks, Unto a quiet restful place, Where Mary sat, with wistful eyes And tender smile and outstretched hands, To welcome him to Paradise! "He was so small and mother-lost. So dazzled, and so half-afraid, He could not bear the bliss of Heaven, Or view the hosts in white arrayed, Until the clasping, loving arms, And gentle voice dispelled his fears, And dimmed the memory of pain, And dried the last faint trace of tears. "He nestled close against the heart, The mother-heart where Christ once lay, And felt the blessedness of peace Balm all his hurts and griefs away; And Mary sang until he smiled, And rocked him till, with life elate, He faced the wonders and the joys And splendors of his high estate!
No words of comfort can ease the loss. I will pray for you both - my deepest sympathies - we lost five children to early miscarriage and know the pain of loss. You have a little intercessor in heaven. Little Anthony pray for us.
Prayers for you both. A huge Cross. God keeps some secrets in his heart till we meet Him face to face. As one day you will meet your son, who has rushed ahead before you.
Very heartbreaking. My daughter lost her second baby who was stillborn some years ago. The Mass of the Angels and the Christian burial were a great consolation. She named her Kate and had a Baptism of desire which was conducted by a very sympathetic priest. All of this was hugely helpful. Mark the short life of your very loved baby and do something to remember his birth within your family. Cláir & her husband planted a cherry blossom tree in the garden. They call it Kates tree. Even though his earthly life was short he is awaiting you in heaven. The following year Cláir had twin girls, but she still talks about Kate, so she will not be forgotten
how did you cope? will the pain goes away and when? is it willed by God or it is an accident due to our sinful nature? too many questions in my head right now.
My heart breaks for you and your wife zouxi. Many who suffer loss of a child asks these same questions, myself included. I truly believe the death of a child through miscarriage, illness, or accident is not to punish the parents. I also do not believe it is because of our sinful nature. Children are the innocent of the world. The pain will subside and you will accept the loss but the longing to hold and protect will always be with you. I coped by asking our Blessed Mother to care for my child until I saw them again after my death. Hold strong God has a plan for your family. Many blessings to you and your family.
Beautiful response. I have compared it to phantom pain when a leg is removed. That part of the body is gone but the pain remains and you never walk the same for the rest of your life. You always feel it but in my case I asked no questions of God. The moment I was told of my son's death (he was in the military so a full grown man) I threw myself on the Blessed Mother. And she guided me along and carried my pain with me. It never goes entirely away but I always have something to offer from the foot of the cross because of that. I think in some ways the loss of a little baby is worse. Heart ache of the hardest kind. I am keeping you zouxi in my prayers. The most important thing---dont let it shake your faith.
I had 2 miscarriages and one never forgets but eventually accept. There is much to suffer in life and life is not fair as we perceive it. In the end the best thing is to offer it all back to God even though this may seem impossible at this time. All things pass and this too shall pass. You are in my prayers. God love you both.
Thank you for your warm messages. you can't imagine how much pain I feel. Maybe it is the surprise factor that hurts me the most. I am asking myself why this happened to me, what wrong did I do?
That was my exact feelings after our first miscarriage. It was the unexpected shock and very hard to process. It's a hammer blow. In the end we have to accept God's will. Believe me when I say you nor your wife did anything wrong. Dont beat yourself up and be kind to yourself it is a severe suffering because the loss is so huge. But our Lady and our Lord are with you in the suffering. They are so close because your suffering is immense. It is an incredible loss. God bless you. Please take time to grieve and be kind to yourself.
Zouxi, I was watching EWTN this morning, preparing to say the rosary. One of intentions for the rosary this morning was for those who have lost their babies. I prayed for you, your wife and family. I had a miscarriage many years ago but I still remember the pain and confusion. Try to have a Mass of the Angels offered.
Zouxi, I'm so very sorry to hear this. I've lost 3 babies myself. It is a deep mystery, very painful at first, but through prayer and surrender it can turn into something more beautiful than you can imagine right now. Looking back now, I can truly say I'm grateful for my miscarriages, because that kind of pain and intimacy with God made me grow in ways nothing else ever has. And now I absolutely use my 3 children to tug on God's heartstrings when I have very special requests of Him. I rather boldly remind God, "You have my children, whom I offered with love...don't forget! So You must help this person for me..." Never stop throwing yourself at God with all your questions and anguish. Wrestle with Him through the night. He will burn it all away until you see His heart and you understand each other.
