My son turned six the other day. About 6 month ago he asked me if santa was real. I told him santa's real name is st nicholas that he works for jesus. He said some of the kids at school said he wasnt real. I knew then i had to tell him the reality but i wanted one last Christmas for him and i guess for his mother and I. So i waited until christmas was over and he turned six. Tonight I told him the truth about how st nicholas (santa) died along time ago and is in heaven. He asked where the presents come from and i told him we got them for him. He was clearly shocked and i feel awful i feel like i robbed him but at the sametime i gave him something more important.. the truth. I told him i didnt want him to think that i was lying and thats why i told him but he said that i had been lying to him but i said no i told you there was a saint nicholas and there was and i think he understood. I feel that he appreciated the truth and that ultimately due to his demeaner after that it brought us together more. In a sense i am pleased because i think santa detracts from the true meaning of Christmas and i want build relationship of trust. I was not going to tell him so soon. The situation just presented itself. I wanted to discuss it with my wife first but without thinking and sensing a real connection with my son i opened up to him and i admit it was a bit selfish on my part as we have not bonded as a father and son as much as we could have while his younger brother and i do have that bond and i wanted that for my eldest also and i really feel it brought us so much closer. Now my wife loves all of the Christmas build up the writing letters to santa the santa movies etc absolutly loves it so the question is do we as father and son break the news to her or do we allow her to have her christmas. I dont like keeping secrets but at the sametime i want her to continue to enjoy the things she enjoys so much about the putting cookies out for santa etc I had the same dilema when i realised there was no santa with my parents... i never told them i stopped believing for years i pretended i believed even getting to a point where even i was beginging to think they would think i am to old to believe in santa... was it right to let my parents think i believed in santa?